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Salam! I need help my husband and I have been married for 2 years and have small baby girl My husband has a very bad temper if something is not his way such as food or the house He gets so angry he begans to use really horrible bad words and yells and screams I start reading ayat Kursi but he continues I cry at night quietly and have recently started having Anxiety attacks Please help me tell me a dua I can read or something To finish his horrible anger Lifebeginsnow2012@gmail.com |
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I don't know about duas, but I find it's very helpful to talk to the person. Now, i know you're a mother, and extremely busy, but this may be worth a shot. try this:-
Now maybe some parts don't sound so great, but trust me, this works. Choose your words carefully though. Good luck :) You'll do great |
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Well, there may be many reasons: problems at work, or someone like him on the side (new love), or someone has cursed your family, if any, he tired of family life as it relates to the child? He may rave about the money that they are not? if the family wealth, and all is well, you have to be sought only in the cause of it, maybe he has something wrong with your head, or a midlife crisis? you do know him better, so you'll know better, but in any case, rudeness, discourtesy, and God forbid assault can not be forgiven, otherwise it will only get worse |
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SAHI BUKHARI Volume 8, Book 75, Number 333 : Narrated by Abu Huraira Allah's Apostle said, "When it is the last third of the night, our Lord, the Blessed, the Superior, descends every night to the heaven of the world and says, 'Is there anyone who invokes Me (demand anything from Me), that I may respond to his invocation; Is there anyone who asks Me for something that I may give (it to) him; Is there anyone who asks My forgiveness that I may forgive him?' " Volume 8, Book 75, Number 352 : Narrated by Abu Huraira Allah's Apostle said, "The invocation of anyone of you is granted (by Allah) if he does not show impatience (by saying, "I invoked Allah but my request has not been granted.") Volume 8, Book 75, Number 356 : Narrated by Ibn Abbas The Prophet used to invoke Allah at the time of distress, saying, "La ilaha illal-lahu al-'Azim, al-Halim, La ilaha illal-lahu Rabbu-s-samawati wal-ard wa Rabbu-l-arsh il-azim." Volume 8, Book 75, Number 357 : Narrated by Ibn 'Abbas Allah's Apostle used to say at a time of distress, "La ilaha illal-lahu Rabbul-l-'arsh il-'azim, La ilaha illallahu Rabbu-s-samawati wa Rabbu-l-ard, Rabbu-l-'arsh-il-Karim." Volume 8, Book 75, Number 385 : Narrated by Sa'd Seek refuge with Allah by saying the words which the Prophet used to say while seeking refuge with Allah, "0 Allah! I seek refuge with You from cowardice, and seek refuge with You from miserliness, and seek refuge with You from reaching a degraded geriatric old age, and seek refuge with You from the afflictions of the world and from the punishment in the grave." sister only allah can help you and he is dominant over every thing have faith in him and invoke him for your help inshallah his help will come soon and to be confident about his help is the key....and read sura ya-sin and sura raehman |
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If I were you which i am not and if he were a muslim i would go and direct tell him to talk nicely and stop screaming and stop saying bad words.. Tell him that is is not a good behavior and its unproffesional of an adult like him to do things like that.. Tell him how you feel.. How hard you have it.. Stop all that crap about giving him his favourite food.. People should stop keeping everything secrets but its better to face the problems.. Let him look at you and let him see his own mistakes, cause those who does the opposite of islam and who does bad things has dirty eyes.. They are cursed and can only be helped by looking at their own problems.. If you dont tell him he will never know what he is doing wrong.. Seriously u have 2 tell him.. But if he is not a muslim if he does not pray, read the quran, if he say bad things about allah too i would suggest you leave him, that would be best for you, and your children if you want muslim kids right? real muslim men never hit their wifes and never swears.. I know the kind of type your husband is .. And im pretty sure you live in the middle east cause thats how the culture is.. Men has more power than woman.. But in reality woman and men are equal. In the quran it says everybody is equal.. We are all son of Adam and Eve. Therefore if you follow the quran 100% a woman should have the same power in the house as a husband.. Unfortunately culture and tradition has changed that way of thinking totally.. Specially in the middle east. i feel bad for women cause they have no rights.. its unfair i must admit but lets hope one day women will get more rights in the future |
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Thank you i will try this.. the thing is that i have tried this many times before he will understand for sometime and when shetan gets to him it gets back to the anger. i know he loves me very much, and he shows it too but when he is angry he forgets all this and i know later he realizes that what he did wasnt right but he wont say sorry his ego comes in the way, but inshallah i will do it once more, i cant leave him i love him and he is the father of my baby i have faith in allah its just sometimes when your so down you just wish you had someone to talk to a friend or anyone.. i cant tell you how much i appreciate you taking the time and telling me thing jazak allah |
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Sorry, but praying will not help you. You need to seek help from a professional source. Failing that, you need to leave him. No woman deserves that kind of treatment. None. I wish you the best in the future. I hope that you find the courage to do what is right in this instance. |
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uhh... read the Quran or ask and pray for Allah to help you in this matter salam